How to Change Your Life
Life change can be harder than you think. The thing is, for years, sometimes decades, you have been devoted to a certain identity. You could be the “partier”, the “nerd”, the “outgoing one”, the “class clown”, the “beauty queen”, the “overachiever”, the “overweight one”, the “mean girl”. You name it. But I’m here to tell you today, that no matter who you were yesterday, no matter what people might expect from you or how predictable you have been in the past, today is a new day. Life change is possible! It may be tough. It may be uncomfortable. You might even lose some friends (or those you thought were friends) in the process, but the life change you make will most definitely be worth it.
Life Change = Loss of Coolness
This is how it will feel at first. Why, you ask? Well, you have been that certain person for a long time. You are “that” person for a reason. You get a payoff from it. Perhaps being the “mean girl” or the “partier” or the “class clown” provides you with hightened confidence. It makes you feel powerful and important. Being the “overweight one” or the “nerd” could provide you a sense of comfort and belonging and happiness. The truth is, in most situations, especially destructive ones, we are simply masking pain. It is all a facade. The people that care about the destructive identity that we have created…those people aren’t your real friends. True friends want a positive life change for each other. True friends support me when I need a change in my life. Fake friends disappear when the behavior disappears. This is honestly a blessing in disguise. But it will be painful at first. You will feel alone. You will feel like the life change isn’t worth it. You will actually go thru a period of grieving as your world changes.
There is Sunshine on the Other Side of Life Change
What do you want to be remembered for? What kind of legacy do you want to leave? When people think of YOU, what do you want to come to mind? Partier? Class clown? Overweight? Forget who you were or even who you are right now. Start today. Take a baby step. Make a life change. It will be lonely. It will be uncomfortable. But LIFE awaits you. A good life. Just make it thru the growing pains! There will be sunshine! P.S. To get fit from the inside out and be surrounded by super awesome, positive people, message me at jessica@jessicabowsernelson.com.
