Silence the Voices
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Hey! It’s Jessica Bowser Nelson and thank you for joining me for my very first show. Im going to be doing a show once a week on different topics about life, success, health, fitness, you name it.
So this week I want to get started with something I’m super passionate about and that is DARING TO DREAM again. Because for some reason I feel like, in society, we have lost our ability to kind of rise up and accept challenges to go for more in life. Somehow this mediocre MONSTER came in and told everybody that average is awesome and I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be average.
I want to achieve great things. I want to make an impact. I want to make a difference and I want to just FEEL ALIVE. And, I’ve been on the other side of things.
You know,
I’ve been lost
and dark
and depressed
and searching
and feeling worthless
and feeling like life had passed me by
and that feeling..sucked.
So now I’m on a mission to help as many people as possible NOT feel that way anymore. And I’m living proof that it can be done. Here’s the thing, we have these voices in our head and no, I’m not getting crazy. Ha! I’m just saying the things we tell ourself..odds are you probably have a few things you tell yourself on a regular basis.
So think of what those things are right now. If something comes up….you know, whatever just pops in your head that you are constantly saying to yourself. It could be:
“You’re not skinny enough.”
“You’re not good enough.”
“You’re not going to amount to anything.”
“You’re too old”.
There are so many things that can go on in our heads, which I think is crazy how busy we are up there. But most of the time, they are always negative. So I don’t know what three things you just thought of but, were they negative? Were they negative things that you are constantly hammering into your head? You know, it’s unfortunate, but it’s true. For the longest time I fully believed that I just, I JUST, wasn’t good enough. No matter what I did, it wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t measuring up. It wasn’t hitting the mark. And it was leaving me feeling worthless, feeling like a loser, feeling like what’s wrong with me??? All of these voices and things we tell ourselves, these little phrases, they have POWER. So we’ve GOT to change the voices.
So what you need to do first, like I said, is write them down. Figure out what they are so that when then they pop up you know that’s the voice that I’ve got to change. You can kind of recall it and remind yourself to speak the opposite. Tell yourself. I mean, you ARE going to be the crazy person walking down the road talking to yourself. So when you say, I’m not good enough…then you’re like: “Yes, I am. Yes, I am. Yes, I am. Yes, I AM! I AM good enough. I’m capable of amazing things.” There’s no difference in you and anyone else. So that’s #1. You are going to have to find out your things and combat them on a regular basis. You have to reprogram your brain. For the longest time, I thought thinking negative and expecting horrible things was awesome. Guess what. IT’S NOT. Because when you expect horrible things you GET horrible things. So yeah, I wasn’t disappointed because I was expecting horrible things but I also wasn’t ever happy because I WAS EXPECTING HORRIBLE THINGS. So don’t do that.
Now I want to get to your dreams.
What do YOU want in life?
This could be your purpose, your passion, your mission.
It could be a white picket fence with a house and a dog.
Whatever it is, your dream MATTERS. Unfortunately, though, what you’re going to experience, is that your dream doesn’t matter to other people, as much. Because it’s not their dream, it’s YOURS. So don’t get upset when your spouse, your family members, your parents, when they don’t jump on board of your dream and get on the float and ride down the road with you. That’s okay. Because they’re not the one that has to fight for it. They’re not the one that has it buried in their heart and are yearning after it.
For the longest time, my husband’s dream is to have a boat. He wants to talk about the color of the boat, the size of the boat, the weight, the wake the boat’s going to create…EVERYTHING ABOUT THE BOAT. But, guess what? I DON’T CARE ABOUT A BOAT! HA! I care about him so I do support his dreams and I do talk to him about this boat. But it’s still HIS dream. It’s not mine so it’s not going to get the same reaction from me. But a lot of times we look to people and we want their reaction to be OUR reaction. And it’s just not a reality.
You know when I started my job as a coach, I knew good and well that my parents didn’t think it was super awesome. When I graduated college with an International Business degree and I was a waitress….another time, my parents probably didn’t think that was SUPER awesome. That’s not what you want to brag to your friends about. Your really smart daughter is a waitress, you know…”how society views it”. But, they didn’t know what my dream was. My dream was to have a flexible job where I could travel and have control of my income. I did all of those things. Then what happened? My dream grew. Now, l still want those things. I want to travel. I want to be in control of my income, but I also want to make a difference and I want to impact lives. So, I got a different job. Same thing, it wasn’t a traditional job. I wasn’t the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. But, I was the CEO of my life. So for me, I was achieving my dream. For my parents, maybe not so much. But it didn’t matter because it was MY dream. It was my journey. It was my heart’s desire and I was going to go after it, regardless.
